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I have zero advice on how to reclaim solo time. It took cancer for me to get some of that, and then it’s spent on focusing on healing. But I do know everything is a phase and eventually more solo time will be inevitable and I’d most likely wish for more community. But I hear you loud and clear. I crave it so bad especially when I have little people dependent on me.

I don’t know if this sounds appealing to you at all, but I’m planning to take my kids and dog to the Montrose doggie beach on Tuesday around 3:30-4. If you and your son feel like some beach company. The twins are 13 and my youngest is 5, but perhaps worth splashing around in the lake?

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Hi Tonika! Welcome back! I've been thinking about you and meaning to reach out. I would LOVE to join you on Tuesday. I have to reschedule one thing, but that should be possible.

Oof that cancer is giving you the chance for alone time. That's a tough way to negotiate for alone time! And I imagine that parenting is more stressful now during the cancer journey?

Everything certainly is a phase, but parenting is a long phase! Have you found more independence with your twins being 13? I love the increasing independence of my 9 year old - he just made macaroni and cheese by himself for the first time - but he also has had a resurgence of separation anxiety in recent months, and I think that's worn me down too.

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Oh I just emailed you! Looking forward to seeing you in person!

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